Authentic Domination vs Careful Curation: Not your usual, commercial domination experience

Princess Marx Ballbusting Andrea Dipre

Many Women sell the image of the perfect FemDom Goddess. Most of them also offer the entire perfect FemDom experience – the marketing, the look, the fetishes – they are all carefully constructed to reflect back to the consumer the very things he wants the most. (Let Me shatter your fantasy for a second: this business is no different than other business, and you are consumers and we are providers). I call this “a la carte FemDom.” It is a fine business strategy, and those Women who can hone in on the target market are brilliant business Women for doing so. They are selling an experience, you are buying it, and they should get paid handsomely for it, because doing it well requires both artistry and shrewdness – a rare combination of skills.

And all of us ProDommes do something your grade school teacher taught you: “show, don’t tell.” We all carefully curate our marketing presence to send a particular message: one of us is elegant, sexy, and exclusive; another is a flirty, kinky, indulge-all-your-fantasies girl-next-door; and another still is a sadistic and legendary destroyer of men’s assholes. Few of us offer something more than a cliché in that presentation (because men are predictable and clichés pay the bill$$$), and even fewer of us break that fourth wall by offering you, our clients, meta-insight into the machination of Pro-Domming. You’ll rarely see this kind of blog post on someone’s commercial website – but if you seek it out, you’ll easily find it on any sexworker-oriented site. This is because that kind of commentary usually falls on deaf ears, ruins the fantasy (i.e. the money-generator), and reminds Me of that biblical quote I love about porcine nacre waste.

You could say that My cliché, if you can call it such, is of a Female Supremacist and sexworker advocate. Many of the Women who invoke the aforementioned archetypes are also sexwork advocates, and choose to separate that activism from their commercial practice. And in reality, there’s a good chance their being more outspoken or transparent about their views would cost them income. Yet I choose to break that fourth wall anyway. Maybe I prefer My consumers informed? Maybe I think it’s to your benefit that you hear Our struggle.

I’ve decided to change the direction of My Femdom, and bring My commercial practice more in line with My lifestyle practice. This work is not just about the money for Me. Not to say it’s *just* about the money for more commercial FemDommes, nor that there is anything wrong with this career choice being (like many other jobs), primarily about money. For Me, it is about a vision of the world, and a way of life. With Me, you don’t get the accommodating girl next door who puts on a Dominatrix outfit to fulfill whatever fantasy you have. Not that I haven’t been that girl – I had to be, early on, in My “house” days, when My income depended on it. And not that I’m *never* accommodating – it sometimes makes sense to be so. But there’s a difference. My primary revenue stream comes from elsewhere, and that’s a privileged position that gives Me the latitude to run sessions the way I want to, with clients who (hopefully) “get it” and see things My way.

Let Me be very, VERY clear: we should EXALT the Women who have figured out how to monetize guys’ horniness and the many wankers on the interwebs. There is 100%, absolutely EVERYTHING RIGHT with that.

However, I’d like to bring something a little more lifestyle-like – a little more authentic: I will *not* take every and any session. I will *not* cater to fetish interests that don’t align with My specific politics around play (this includes etiquette). I will *not* merely indulge your desires in order to extract your money from you.

In order to pique My interest, your interests must be concordant with My views on FemDom. I am not the kinky girl next door selling you her foot pictures because (let’s face it) there’s LOADS of money to be made in guys’ horniness. The Princess Marx Experience is a reflection of who I actually am – My beliefs, My art, My politics. Where for some, FemDom is a way to pay the bills and support another art, My FemDom *is* My art. In fact, I have another career that supports My art and allows Me to practice it in a way that feels authentic to Me. It is an art, a politics, and a lifestyle. It is those that set even the commercial “Princess Marx Experience” apart from the rest.

Why, don't mind if I do

Why, don’t mind if I do

Does that mean I won’t take simple foot worship sessions, or ones where My subject is not quite the Female Supremacist I wish every person to be? Absolutely not. I will BE one of those Women I mentioned, and I will take your money – and enjoy it. (Unless you’re offensive or not worth the trouble – not taking it would just be silly.) But who doesn’t enjoy sitting back and letting their feet be rubbed? And who doesn’t enjoy being paid for something they like doing?

It’s tempting to say that to some degree, we are all beholden to the hand that feeds. But if you consider what I wrote in the last paragraph, you’ll quickly realize that the contract into which you and I enter when we session is a professional one: I’m happy to provide a service with professionalism, to clients who show similar respect and professionalism. And, as FemDom is both My politics and My art, it is My mission to make sure you, My servant, are beholden to Me, and not the other way around.

May We be ever steady in our course, and ever true in our ways.

 

Except for this election - elect Bernie this time.

Except for this election – elect Bernie this time.